How Fathers Shape Their Sons into Husbands
“Pay attention to how he treats his mother.” It's a statement women often hear when they wonder aloud how a boyfriend might behave toward them in the long run.
But, according to the VoiceMale Survey, a man's relationship with his mother does not influence his marriage as much as we may think. It is, more importantly, a man's relationship with his father that shapes him into the husband he will become.
According to the survey, which I conducted in conjunction with the University of Kentucky , men who had good relationships with their mothers were no more likely to be happy in their relationships with their wives. Men who had positive relationships with their fathers, however, were much more likely to be happily married to their wives.
Why is this so? It seems that men learn how to be husbands by watching and experiencing their fathers. If a son has a father who is loving and compassionate, the son tends to follow that lead. If a son experiences a father who is disconnected and dismissive, the son tends toward that way too.
For more information on this, see Chapter 14 of my book, VoiceMale.
Three Ways to Create Love for the Long Run
For years, I've been asking long-together couples the same question: What does it take to make a relationship last for the long run? I've recently put together a one-page answer to that question based on all those responses I've received. Click here for a free look at it. And feel free to forward it to a friend.